How to Know When to Breakup: Making Future Plans

How to Know When to Breakup: Making Future Plans

Are you feeling confused about your relationship and wondering if you should breakup? My new video series ‘How to Know When to Breakup’, will help you figure out how and if you should end your relationship. In the second video of the series, I talk about another sign that it might be time to breakup–a resistance to making future plans. Recap: “Hey, this is Janelle Klander, creator of BreakupSchool.com and you are watching the “How to Know When to Breakup” video series to help you know when and if you should breakup in your relationship. In this video we’re going to talk about what it means when you start feeling resistance towards making future plans with your partner. Is this happening to you? Alright, so let’s go back to the very beginning, when you first met. You were constantly making plans. You couldn’t wait to do and see things together. It felt right. Then all of a sudden it stopped feeling natural to make plans. In fact you’re not even sure you want to make plans past next week. At the same time you might be terrified to let go and you may have not wanted to admit any of this until just right now. First, I want to let you know that what you’re feeling is completely normal. It’s hard to want to make plans with someone if you’re not sure you want to be with them. It’s not your fault and there really isn’t anything you can do about it. Most relationships don’t last forever. So if you feel like yours has an expiration date, then trust...
How to Know When to Breakup: Finding Others Attractive

How to Know When to Breakup: Finding Others Attractive

Are you feeling confused about your relationship and wondering if you should breakup? My new video series ‘How to Know When to Breakup’, will help you figure out how and if you should end your relationship. In the first video of the series, I talk about one sign that it might be time to breakup–finding others attractive. Here’s a word for word recap of the video: “Hi, I’m Janelle Klander, creator of BreakupSchool.com, and you are watching the ‘How to Know When to Breakup’ video series to help you know when and if you should breakup. In this video we’re going to talk about what it means when you start finding others attractive. So you’re starting to notice the hotties around you. This could be a sign that you’re getting close to the end of your relationship. It’s normal to start feeling attracted to other people when you’re less into your own relationship. ‘Cause deep down you know you have to keep your options open and forgetting that you’re in a relationship sometimes is part of this. Personally, I know that when I’m at the end of my relationship I start finding guys more and more attractive. I don’t freak out. I just take it as a sign to start gradually accepting that the relationship is probably over. So it doesn’t mean you need to breakup right now, but it probably means that you can start preparing yourself for the end. Has this happened to you?” But maybe you’ve watched the video and are still unsure about whether you should breakup or not. If that’s the case, sign up...
5 Things You Can Do for Yourself Post-Breakup

5 Things You Can Do for Yourself Post-Breakup

There are a lot of things you can do for yourself after a breakup that aren’t so great for you. Alcohol, binge eating, that impulsive haircut that seemed like such a good idea at the time. . . you know, those kinds of things. Likewise, there are a lot of things you can do after a breakup that simply have to be done. And by this, I mean things like giving back your ex’s things and un-friending them from your Facebook account. But is there anything you can do for yourself after a breakup that would be both enjoyable AND helpful? Of course there is! I’ve put together a list of 25 things you can do for yourself after a breakup that will help with the healing process without ruining your waistline or liver. I didn’t want to overwhelm you with all of them, however, so I’ve split the list up into 5 parts. So what can you do for yourself after a breakup? 1. Get a manicure There is something relaxing and rejuvenating about getting a manicure. And after a breakup, you deserve to feel a bit pampered, so head on out to your favorite salon. Be a bit daring by trying out a new color. Every time you look down at your nails, you’ll be able to smile. 2. Watch a movie with friends After a breakup, it helps to be around people who care about you and a movie night with your friends can be the cure for a lot of sadness. Pop some popcorn, buy a 12-pack of Diet Coke and settle in to watch...
4 Things Maya Angelou Teaches Us About Breakups

4 Things Maya Angelou Teaches Us About Breakups

Inspired by the very recent passing of Maya Angelou, I’ve put together some insightful information for those going through a breakups. Maya didn’t specifically focus on those going through a breakup, but gave amazing inspiration and encouragements as an author and poet. She will be grateful missed but her words will live on to inspire the world. 4 Things Maya Angelou Teaches Us About Breakups 1) “You can’t forgive without loving. And I don’t mean sentimentality. I don’t mean much. I mean having enough courage to stand up and say, ‘I forgive. I’m finished with it.” – Maya Angelou Forgiveness. It’s a tough subject that most seem to skip through when doing self development because they may feel it doesn’t pertain to them. “I understand forgiveness already.” It’s an important aspect of moving on past a relationship. Spending time on forgiveness is all about you… not about your ex. Forgiveness will set you free and help you to feel empowered. It takes strength and effort, but it’s always worth it in the end. 2) “We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.” – Maya Angelou A breakup feels like a bit giant defeat. We feel like we’ve been pushed down. Beatin down. We even feel like we’ve been emotionally punched in the gut. Ouch. the defeats of everyday life help us grow. Why wouldn’t a big defeat like a breakup help us grow even more? Bringing determination and your power into your breakup will help you realize that you WILL NOT BE DEFEATED. You will come out of this stronger, happier and healthier than ever before....
End of School Year Breakup: 5 Reasons Why They Aren’t So Bad

End of School Year Breakup: 5 Reasons Why They Aren’t So Bad

The end of the school year has come and gone. Were you one of the unlucky ones dumped at the end of term? If you were then you are now the victim of the age-old ‘end of school breakup’. We’ve all been a victim of that once or twice. It sucks, but the situation isn’t all bad. Here are five reasons why things aren’t actually as bad as they seem. 1.The stress of the break up has likely helped you fit into your summer bikini Summer is coming up and that means it’s bikini and swimsuit season. All of the stress from your recent breakup has probably led you to losing a couple of pounds, so you’re in luck. When everybody else heads to the gym for months of sweat and pain so they can get that ideal body, you’ve already gotten a head start. Which leads me to reason number two. 2.Summer flings: Summer is the best time to have a fling. Everybody is looking for that one fun and easy summer relationship. Now that you’re without a boyfriend, you’re free to take part in all of the summer action. But even if you aren’t the kind of person that takes part in a summer fling, that doesn’t mean this breakup won’t be worthwhile in the end. 3.You deserve someone who wants to be with youThe truth is that if your guy broke up with you at the end of the school year, then he wasn’t worth your time anyways. If your ex doesn’t want to be with you, then why should you want to be with him? Say goodbye...
College Breakup: Does Graduating College Mean Breaking up?

College Breakup: Does Graduating College Mean Breaking up?

College Breakup: Does Graduating College Mean Breaking up? Graduation is a time of change and transition. It is a time when your old life comes to an end and a new life begins. At this time, you may be thinking of all of the things you will leave behind as the school year ends, such as your old campus and friends. But what about your boyfriend? Does leaving college mean leaving your college relationship? Does graduating college mean breaking up too? Not everyone breaks up with their boyfriend once they receive their diploma, but not everyone should keep him around either. It all depends on what you want and how your relationship currently stands. Here are some things to consider. 1) Location After school ends, graduates move into a much bigger world. Do you know where you’re going to live after graduation? Do you know where your boyfriend plans to be? Maybe he still has a year of school left before graduation, but you want to move to a distant city. Would you be okay if your relationship was long-distance? Remember that long-distance relationships can be hard to maintain. Instead of seeing your guy in person every day, as you would in school, you would only see him on weekends and over the occasional vacation. Your dates would handled over Skype or by phone. Some people are capable of keeping relationships strong through these challenges–are you one of those people? Be honest with yourself. 2) Personal Goals Everyone has personal goals for themselves, but sometimes these goals change after we graduate. Now is the time to ask yourself if...