Interview with Barbra Ignatiev

Interview with Barbra Ignatiev

I met Barbra, a painter living in Oakland, CA, during a business program a few years back. I liked her style and she became my accountability buddy for the next year. As a painter, she uses color to help people draw out what is vibrant about themselves. Currently, she is working on a series of figure study paintings that explore expressive movement and color combinations. Isn’t her work gorgeous? I wanted all of you to meet her too, so I asked her a few questions so you and I can get to know her better. Because she’s awesome, Barbra also agreed to make a fun and inspiring wallpaper to help keep you positive throughout the day. It can be downloaded at the end of this post. But first, the questions! 1) Many readers are interested in what makes a good relationship work. Can you tell us your recipe for a good relationship? For almost 10 years, my husband and I have had a relationship built on silliness and ridiculousness so that helps. I think not taking yourself too seriously helps with just about any relationship. Many of the world’s problems could be solved just with a good laugh, just maybe… I also like to set up expectations for things on a daily basis so we’re both on the same page. Conflicting expectations can really screw up any moment. Oh and don’t forget communication that is honest and meaningful and not all about you. I think all of this applies to any relationship, not just romantic ones. 2) What’s your go-to activity (or non activity) when you are feeling stressed?...
Breakup School Interviews a Single Girl

Breakup School Interviews a Single Girl

Single Girl is the woman behind 1 Year of Single, an online blog devoted to experiences in dating, breakup, and recovery. Some time ago, she decided to spend an entire year as a single girl and share that experience with the world. Recently, I decided to talk to her and get her take on how her decision to take a break from the dating scene has not only changed, but improved, her life. —— Breakup School: What made you decide to spend a year single? Single Girl: I wanted a long stretch of guilt-free time to spend on the healthy development of myself. See, at the time I was in the middle of a painful, drama-filled relationship with a guy who was going through a divorce. It was a situation that I swore I would never get myself into, but I had discarded my own intuition for advice from friends and went out with him anyway. Of course it was a huge mistake and I ended up falling for the guy, who soon-after returned to his bipolar, cheating wife. I not only told him to lose my number, but I swore off every facet of dating for a year. It was at that point that I allowed myself to both recognize and embrace the full scope of my anger at the years I wasted in not listening to my own intuition on men who were more of a mess than I was. And sadly it all originally stemmed from my mother —  a mentally unstable woman who raised me to believe that a husband would give my life value....