25 Things You Can Do Post-Breakup: Part 4

25 Things You Can Do Post-Breakup: Part 4

This is the fourth week of the ongoing series, 25 Things You Can Do For Yourself Post-Breakup. By now you should have a good idea that doing something for yourself post-breakup is the best way to begin getting over your past relationship quickly and with the least amount of pain.  If you missed the previous weeks or would like to remind yourself of my other suggestions, head on back to weeks One, Two, and Three. To continue with our list, here are five more things you can do for yourself that will make the healing process after a breakup that much easier.  16) Read a book Escape from the world for a little bit by reading a book. Interested in a story with a powerful leading lady? Books like that will help you remember how strong you are and make you realize that you too can defeat any obstacle. Or maybe you want to read a sad or romantic book? These kinds of stories can be great if you are looking to have a good cry. Releasing the negative emotions you’ve been feeling by doing this is always more helpful than you would expect.  17) Journaling Or if reading isn’t your thing, why don’t you try writing in a journal? Journaling is another great way to cleanse yourself of negative emotions. Find an empty notebook and just write the first thing that comes to mind. That thought will then lead to another and soon you will be releasing all of your pain and anger in a flood of words. When the words stop, you’ll be in a much better place emotionally....
Breakup Recovery Program Helps You Find the Perfect Partner

Breakup Recovery Program Helps You Find the Perfect Partner

  I’m Janelle Klander and I am a coach, a healer, and a wedding officiant. My main goal is to empower women to live their dream lives and inspire them to be authentic. I decided to specialize in breakups because so many people were coming to me that were still stuck in a past relationship and their past relationship was affecting their present and their future. Not just in relationships, but in other areas of their life. I wanted to help these people, give them an easier way, an easier process to get through this healing. I’ve had over a decade of experience with breakups and I’m really grateful for all of those relationships and all the breakups. They’ve taught me so much. Looking back on that, I wish that I was given a process. I wish that I was given encouragement and empowerment, as opposed to feeling like a failure. Essentially people want to be with a partner. We have that yearning. We want to be with somebody. We want to share these experiences in life. But if you’re repeating the same patterns over and over again then you’re not going to have that opportunity to do that. You’re going to keep dating that same person. Or the same things are going to come up for you. So if you’re really serious about meeting that perfect partner then you have to do internal work. I created this program “Free Yourself From Your Ex in 30 Days or Less” because I wanted to give people an opportunity to move through their breakup in an easy, quick way instead of...
25 Things You Can Do Post-Breakup: Part 3

25 Things You Can Do Post-Breakup: Part 3

Have you just gone through a breakup? If you have, then please give yourself some time to grieve the relationship and be emotional. Breaking up with a boyfriend or girlfriend is difficult and it’s best to let those emotions out. Sooner rather than later, however, you will have to get back out into the world and move on with your life. And the best way to do so is to do something for yourself after a breakup.  I’ve compiled a list of 25 things you can do for yourself after a breakup. But, just so you don’t feel like you have to do everything at once, I’ve split that list into 5 parts. This is Part Three. If you’d like to read previous parts, head on over to Parts One and Two. But let’s get back to the list. Here are 5 more things you can do for yourself post-breakup. 11) Dance Get up, turn on some music, and dance to the beat. Dancing combines the benefits of both exercise and music. And by that I mean, the movement of your body will help you lose weight and reduce stress, while the music pumps you up emotionally. For added benefit, make sure the music is properly empowering. Some feel good lyrics are just what you need.  12) Hug someone When feeling emotional after a breakup, who wouldn’t want a good hug? Find a friend or a family member and give them a squeeze. It’s emotionally affirming to know that you have someone in your life who will just give you a hug whenever you need it. Also, getting a...
25 Things to Do For Yourself Post-Breakup: Part 2

25 Things to Do For Yourself Post-Breakup: Part 2

In a relationship you spend a lot of time doing things for your significant other. And that’s fine! But once you’ve gone through a breakup and that person is out of your life then it’s time to stop putting them first. Now it is all about you and to begin practicing that, start by doing something just for yourself after your breakup. I’ve made a list of things you can do after a breakup to help you with this, broken into a series of five parts. Of the series, this is Part 2. If you’re interested in learning about more things you can do for yourself after a breakup, head on back to Part 1. After reading that, you can continue reading here. Some more things you can do for yourself post-breakup are: 6) Go for a walk Get out in the fresh air by taking a walk. Whether the walk is long or short, the act of stretching your legs and moving around will help push all of the doubts and fears and pain of your breakup to the side for a little bit and clear your head. Going for a walk will also be exercise so it will do both you, and your body, some good. 7) Go shopping Another option is to get out your wallet and head for the shops for some retail therapy. Shopping is a great distraction from a breakup and can be a lot of fun. Buy yourself a new dress, a nice necklace, or an interesting book. You don’t want to go crazy and start throwing your money away, but spending...
5 Reasons to Turn Around your Finances After a breakup!

5 Reasons to Turn Around your Finances After a breakup!

I left an 8 year marriage to start from scratch in 2008. I made many financial mistakes getting into and out of that relationship including marrying $60,000 worth of debt and not paying attention to countless red flags. I also learned some incredible lessons from paying that debt off in 2 years to thriving financially after the relationship ended. I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. We are only to pay attention. You may be worried or heartbroken or both. You’re possibly kicking yourself either for not noticing the red flags in your relationship sooner or for not behaving differently somehow to save the relationship. Stop that now. Stop blaming yourself for everything. It’s time to treat yourself with kindness, sweetheart! One of the biggest worries for women after a breakup is financial. It is also the #1 reason we stay in toxic relationships much longer than we should. Assuming you are newly or not-so-newly single…where do you go from here? One of the most satisfying things you can do is take care of yourself financially. Nothing gives you inner strength quite like being the Hero of your own life. It’s not as hard as you think. This the best time for reflection and figuring out who you really are and who you want to be. There is nothing quite as sexy as a confident and vibrant woman who takes care of her own business. Use this time as a gift to yourself. Your life is worth this effort. Nurture your financial well-being. Here are the reasons why: 1) Debt-Free and Worry-Free: Getting your financial house...
Breakup Horoscopes: Moving On for the 12 Sun Signs

Breakup Horoscopes: Moving On for the 12 Sun Signs

Breakups are difficult to go through for everyone, but everyone deals with them differently. How do the twelve different sun signs react to the end of a relationship and is there any advice that can be given for each type? Aries: Your breakups may be characterized by thunder and vengeance, but they also pass quickly. If you are the dumper, you will want to get revenge on your ex then move on. And if you are the dumpee, you will still somehow get revenge on your ex and move on. The keyword here is to get active. Once you find something to do or a new goal to go after, you’ll be fine. And, if possible, try to avoid revenge as best you can as well. Taurus: You like structure and a schedule so you tend to hang on to things longer than most. As a Taurus, you are most likely not the one that initiated this breakup either, unless you were really pushed. If your ex hasn’t discussed this breakup in advance, you are likely feeling extremely resistant to it as well. Just this once, try to let things go gracefully. Realize that there is nothing you can do and that change is okay. As a Taurus, once you decide to give up on a relationship, there will be no turning back. Gemini: You will argue with your ex and with yourself. There may be some confusion about whether your breakup is actually the end of your relationship, since you will no doubt feel a great deal of resistance to the idea. You may very well talk the...