25 Things to Do For Yourself Post-Breakup: Part 5

25 Things to Do For Yourself Post-Breakup: Part 5

Are you looking for something that can help you get through the pain of a breakup? Spending time on yourself after a relationship ends has proven to help with the healing process. To help you follow this advice, I’ve made up a list of things you can do for yourself after a breakup.  This is the last week of the ongoing series “25 Things You Can Do For Yourself Post-Breakup” and these are therefore going to be my last suggestions to you. If you missed the previous weeks or would like to remind yourself of my other suggestions, head on back to weeks One, Two, Three, and Four. To continue with our list, here are the final five things you can do for yourself after a breakup. 21. Spend time with a pet. After a breakup, you are likely feeling pretty lonely, but spending time with a pet can help ease that loneliness.No matter what kind of animal you have, being with your pet will make you happy. And if you don’t have a pet of your own, you can always spend time with a friend’s pet or volunteer at an animal shelter. I know there are positions available which actually require you to pet bunnies and play with kittens.  22. Plan weekend getaway A weekend getaway could be exactly what you need to put your memories of your ex in the past. Hop on a plan and take a trip abroad if you have the money. If you’re like most of us, however, money likely isn’t something you’re swimming in. If so, you can always do something simple. For example:...
How to Know When to Breakup: Finding Others Attractive

How to Know When to Breakup: Finding Others Attractive

Are you feeling confused about your relationship and wondering if you should breakup? My new video series ‘How to Know When to Breakup’, will help you figure out how and if you should end your relationship. In the first video of the series, I talk about one sign that it might be time to breakup–finding others attractive. Here’s a word for word recap of the video: “Hi, I’m Janelle Klander, creator of BreakupSchool.com, and you are watching the ‘How to Know When to Breakup’ video series to help you know when and if you should breakup. In this video we’re going to talk about what it means when you start finding others attractive. So you’re starting to notice the hotties around you. This could be a sign that you’re getting close to the end of your relationship. It’s normal to start feeling attracted to other people when you’re less into your own relationship. ‘Cause deep down you know you have to keep your options open and forgetting that you’re in a relationship sometimes is part of this. Personally, I know that when I’m at the end of my relationship I start finding guys more and more attractive. I don’t freak out. I just take it as a sign to start gradually accepting that the relationship is probably over. So it doesn’t mean you need to breakup right now, but it probably means that you can start preparing yourself for the end. Has this happened to you?” But maybe you’ve watched the video and are still unsure about whether you should breakup or not. If that’s the case, sign up...
Halloween Costumes: Become Your Goddess Self

Halloween Costumes: Become Your Goddess Self

We’ve made it halfway through October and Halloween is just around the corner. Do you have your Halloween costume chosen yet? If not, I have an original idea for a costume that could help you attract good things in your everyday, uncostumed, un-Halloweeny, life. Interested? When I was young, I would dress up in the fanciest clothes I could find and pretend I was an adult. I would wear my mother’s high heels and strut around my room, feeling powerful and amazing. Did you ever do anything like that? I’m sure, if you think about it, you have at least one memory that’s similar. There is power in what we imagine and how we see ourselves. When we see ourselves as weak or insecure, then that is what we become. Similarly, when we see ourselves as powerful and independent, we become powerful and independent. When you “dress for the job you want”, you’re following this same principle. So, why not take this trick and apply it to your Halloween costume?  Then your costume will do double duty as both a fun outfit for a night of partying and a tool of empowerment. That’s called multi-tasking. One way to do this is by dressing up as your Goddess Self. Don’t know what your Goddess Self is? Your Goddess Self is the most powerful, ideal version of you that exists. She is beautiful and can look however you imagine her. She can be wearing jeans or a floor-length ball gown; full makeup or absolutely no makeup at all–whatever makes you feel utterly amazing, sexy, and confidant. By imagining and then becoming...
Breakup School Interviews a Single Girl

Breakup School Interviews a Single Girl

Single Girl is the woman behind 1 Year of Single, an online blog devoted to experiences in dating, breakup, and recovery. Some time ago, she decided to spend an entire year as a single girl and share that experience with the world. Recently, I decided to talk to her and get her take on how her decision to take a break from the dating scene has not only changed, but improved, her life. —— Breakup School: What made you decide to spend a year single? Single Girl: I wanted a long stretch of guilt-free time to spend on the healthy development of myself. See, at the time I was in the middle of a painful, drama-filled relationship with a guy who was going through a divorce. It was a situation that I swore I would never get myself into, but I had discarded my own intuition for advice from friends and went out with him anyway. Of course it was a huge mistake and I ended up falling for the guy, who soon-after returned to his bipolar, cheating wife. I not only told him to lose my number, but I swore off every facet of dating for a year. It was at that point that I allowed myself to both recognize and embrace the full scope of my anger at the years I wasted in not listening to my own intuition on men who were more of a mess than I was. And sadly it all originally stemmed from my mother —  a mentally unstable woman who raised me to believe that a husband would give my life value....