4 Ways to Know When You Are Ready to Move On After a Breakup

4 Ways to Know When You Are Ready to Move On After a Breakup

How Quickly Should you Move on After a Breakup?  If you’ve watched the TV series ‘Sex and the City’ you know Charlotte’s rule: You should take half the length of your relationship and that’s how long it takes to heal from your past relationship. We love Charlotte, but relationships and breakups aren’t always that crystal clear. Each breakup, just like each relationship, is unique. Sometimes we’ve seen them coming a mile away and we were prepared when it actually happened. Other times, we were completely side swiped. We didn’t see it coming and it hurt really bad so the healing time was longer before we could get back on the saddle. Here are 4 ways to Know When You Are Ready to Move On After a Breakup #1 When you see your ex’s best friend, you aren’t charged up to talk about your ex with them. When we still have a good amount of emotion, seeing your ex’s best bud will only ignite all the frustration, anger, and other negative emotions. If you can handle a conversation without feeling pulled under the tide of emotion, then you are probably in a good place with the breakup. You may not be over them completely, BUT you are able to talk to their best friend without feeling upset or wanting to trash talk your ex. You may feel how good it was to see and talk to them. #2 You can visit places that remind you of your ex without realizing it right away. There are some places that just remind you of your ex, especially when you just breakup. You might...

Breaking Up – Seeing Your Ex With Someone New

What’s the worst that can happen after a breakup? Seeing your ex with someone new.  When we are still feeling attachment and heavy emotion has found it’s home in the pit in your stomach, it doesn’t take much to feel taken down after a breakup. Seeing your ex with someone new can be the worse situation you could imagine yourself in. When you see your ex being affectionate with another person the way they were with you, it hurts. It really hurts. It digs down into your deepest fear, they are going to move on. Even though we know it’s going to happen eventually, we don’t want them to do it first and we definitely don’t want them to do it in front of us. One of My Breakups I went through a breakup. I saw it coming, not because of us butting heads or wanting different things from life. We were compatible in all the right ways, except our maturity levels and he had an addiction problem. Unfortunately, those are biggies when it comes to a relationship. We both knew it was time to let go. One month after our split, I saw him out. I felt good overall throughout the night. I tried to avoid looking his way. I enjoyed my time with my friends, but as much I didn’t want to admit it, I missed him. It was our thing to go out together to shows. It was my first time going out without him. After the show, I ended up at the same after party as him. There were few people at this gathering and...

Get Out, Right Now. It’s the End of You and Me

A good song can make going through a breakup easier. Here is one song that’ll make you feel better. Leave (Get Out)” I’ve been waiting all day for ya babe So won’t cha come and sit and talk to me And tell me how we’re gonna be together always Hope you know that when it’s late at night I Hold on to my pillow tight And think of how you promised me forever (I never thought that anyone) Could make me feel this way (Now that you’re here boy all I want) Is just a chance to say [Chorus] Get Out, (leave) right now, It’s the end of you and me It’s too late (now) and I can’t wait for you to be gone ‘Cause I know about her (who) and I wonder (why) how I bought all the lies You said that you would treat me right but you was just a waste of time (waste of time) Tell me why you’re looking so confused When I’m the one who didn’t know the truth How could you ever be so cold To go behind my back and call my friend Boy you must have gone and bumped your head Because you left her number on your phone (So now after all is said and done) Maybe I’m the one to blame but (To think that you could be the one) Well it didn’t work out that way [Chorus] I wanted you right here with me but I have no choice you’ve gotta leave Because my heart is breakin’ With every word I’m sayin’ I gave up everything I...

Dating- Casual Distant Relationships Holding you Back? – Breakup Advice

Is Your Casual, Distant Relationship Holding you Back From Meeting Other Guys? Question: I’ve been dating a guy for about 7 months. It’s not serious because it’s a distant relationship. We talk often and he visits about once a month. We try to keep it casual, but I feel casual – out of town relationship is keeping me from dating anyone else. I am considering breaking things off. Everything I try, he tells me it’s not serious and we can date other people. He talks me into being friends or dating or whatever we are doing right now. Am I way off on thinking that this is closing me off from meeting other guys? Answer: I can tell you are a smart girl. Casual distant relationships can keep you from being open to a new relationship and here is why. When we put our energy into dating someone, distant or not, they are receiving much of our energy. We feel comfortable knowing that they are they to call on. We can make exciting weekend plans. We have someone to call when we have something exciting to share. We have someone to text throughout the day. They serve us in so many ways of being in a partnership, but they aren’t actually a serious partnership. Maybe it would work with this guy if you lived in the same city and maybe it wouldn’t. They fact is, even though you live in different places, he’s probably taking up a lot of your energy without even realizing it. If you were completely single you’d be able to open your heart to attract...